What do you think about what you think?

There is a version of life where you are more aware, more in tune. Where things matter in a way that is neither stressful nor overwhelming. In fact, there is joy. Where things are working for our good…

Yes, it does take some work to operate this way regularly, but the benefits are lifechanging in the best way.

What do I mean?

If you read my last post, where I offered A Perspective, just by connecting to the breath you are able to connect to something bigger than yourself, something that lies deep within yourself.

There is a breadth, a vastness, to the wisdom we store and we have access to, but it requires a shift.

A shift in focus.

A shift in perspective.

Let’s say you’re on board with seeing where I might be going with this. Let’s say you’re trying to pay attention to your breathing and noticing what happens when you take a moment to pay attention to your own rhythm…

I’d like to add onto that another layer.

Awareness.

It’s a natural side effect of paying such close, thoughtful attention to yourself

You’re so kind.

As that awareness, grows you can notice that you have more clarity of mind to see things happen in flow. What I mean by that is,

You are giving yourself the opportunity to hear and see and observe. That’s it, observe. The things that are around you. Things that happen to you. You’re less resistant, less reactive, less agitated because you’re able to see how you might have contributed to the outcome and/or how you might not be involved at all. You’re able to claim more responsibility. I know…responsibility? For the things that happen to us?

Yes, my dear

We get to participate in how our world is shaped. We get to allow certain things in or not. It’s tough stuff because we have to let go of a lot of old habits and the need to be proven right. (This is for another post..Justice & Trust)

Things can happen to us and we can transmute it, let it bounce off of us, or let it permeate us; it’s our choice.

We’re so powerful that way.

It’s not easy…at first.

Let’s take the idea from the question I started with, What do you think about what you think?

When things happen can you notice your reaction before you respond?

Can you hear a secondary reaction? Tertiary?

Do all of them feel like genuine responses to the situation? Or are they perhaps, reactions to pain? Perhaps, pain from your past that you are responding to habitually. Are you responding to the person in front of you, or is it coming from a wall/wound, or both, neither?

This is not an attack.

It’s not personal.

Though it may feel strange when you ask yourself these questions. Notice. They are important, even if the answer is you were 100% right and what you’re thinking is 100% accurate and fair. We are just here to notice first, not judge.

Noticing how something resonates in your body is key information to how you feel about something. And it is a road map to our habits and thought patterns. You might notice that you respond to certain situations in the same way all the time.

Is that who you are or is it big you protecting hurt you?

No judgement.

It links you to more than what’s in front of you. Your spirit has a chance to speak to you. To heal you.

You get to listen and witness your inner voice say things like, “This makes me sad/uncomfortable/happy/excited/concerned.” or “This makes me feel inadequate.”

And then you get to ask,

“why?”

Sometimes, we aren’t responding as maturely as we thought. Maybe there is another side, that we couldn’t see through our veil of pain, disbelief, grudge holding, fear, __you name it__.

Just maybe, there is a chance to re-write history, ourstory. Maybe, we can use this new awareness to be guided towards a more authentic version of ourselves, where we receive, not take or force, the respect and value we’ve desired.

I know it’s possible.

It starts with giving ourselves that same respect and attention and love we want from others.

Love your neighbor as yourself, right?

Yes, that’s great!

well,

What happens when we don’t love ourselves? What does our neighbor get from us?

You guessed it…

They get whatever we have and if it’s not love, we should notice… It’s the way to healing.

Don’t just take my word for it…..

Check in.

Your spirit will respond and let you know. The answer is what it is. And from there you are off to the races, my friend! You will be able to understand that people aren’t always responding to you, but their own pain. They’re giving you what they have. We are giving what we have. You’ll start to see the truth in challenging situations because you will know yourself, you won’t be the victim of emotions and thoughts, you’ll be able to adjust in real time towards, True North.

Truth.

❤ Uri