Recognizing when things need change and following through with those changes are two very different things. I want to take a moment to motivate the follow through because we have to realize that a comfort zone is a dangerous thing when it ends up inhibiting your ability to make necessary progress.
It’s normal to search for and desire some level of comfort in order to have some peace and stability in your life. Think about all those times where you felt the urge to do something that would change your situation a little too drastically than you felt comfortable with? The comfort zone of your situation became greater than your growth as an individual and bigger than your goals.
This a very slippery slope because you will end up compromising more than you initially expected and a few resentment-filled years later you are unhappy and unfulfilled.
A few ways I’ve gathered that point out its time to move on and change is..
1.When your situation doesn’t allow for you to be in the same place.. (this is pretty obvious, but often times we will fight for something that has already released us from its grip)
2. When you are no longer happy AND Growing…(You aren’t always going to be happy but if you notice you are stagnate in a given situation and there is no joy in the process, then….)
3. When you have found yourself considering change for far too long and fail to strive for it regardless… (we hold onto things for various reasons..)
Evaluate the reasons you are holding onto something, and don’t let the honesty with yourself scare you from making the necessary changes. Time is there to be utilized, no one needs to be complacent or still, especially if they have a fire inside of them for more.
Of course, the action it takes to make the change is scary, maybe painful (emotionally), and uncomfortable, but when you look at the situations your facing and you compare your current feelings to what you see for yourself.. make sure its align. Settling and compromising are different and you can do one without the other.
Just think about how the words sound coming out of your mouth in times of dispute with yourself or someone else… when you say you are settling there is often a chance that you feel a little diluted, when you say compromise you may feel like things are a little more even or mutual, but ultimately you know when you’re lying to yourself because you’re afraid or nervous or uncomfortable.
Let’s not let fear diminish our potential by trapping us in things that don’t inspire the best in ourselves.
When you are afraid of the future and the change, try to think constantly about all the things that you CAN do.. not the hardships of trying to accomplish big dreams and (in breakup cases) that you may be going it alone or even that you won’t be able to be successful.
The negativity we allow into our minds are toxic lies that will forever keep you in a dissatisfied state. The only change that’s worth it is the kind that challenges and promotes you.
Following through with a positive mind set is the only way to show your true strength.
GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE TO IMPRESS YOURSELF
Think about shelled animals, hermit crabs even! When its time for them to expose themselves and move on towards a bigger shell that they don’t quite fit into, they don’t stay in their old shell until it breaks open and their naked and surprised. They preemptively expose themselves and move into their shell with confidence that they will grow into it soon and they know it will be more comfortable than where they are right now.
Hey and they don’t move that fast…. so don’t beat yourself up if you are slow moving in these things. Just move!
It’s inevitable that struggle will present itself as you move through life, but that doesn’t mean you should fear it. Now that you expect it, create your action plan so you can be your best even when it gets a little uncomfortable, because your new self will feel just as comfortable as your ‘now’ self does.. and if that doesn’t make sense, just imagine trying to live as your old self…
Molt like a butterfly Sting like a bee!
“How often do you lie to yourself about what your next move is? or What things do you lie to yourself about?”
I’d love to read your comments and thoughts..they are appreciated!
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